High demands are placed on families today because both parents are often working and have several other commitments. It is important for parents to realize that while there are many resources available for correct instruction and support, the most important resource to parent and influence any family is the Bible. This timeless text has provided us with all we need to know about parenting Kingdom Families.
The first thing we need to know is that children are a gift from God. I remember when our children were born we prayed for them. Then, we took them to church and had them dedicated to the Lord. We realized right away that we were privileged because God allowed us to take care of His gift. When you receive something very special you take care of it and you are grateful to the giver. No doubt about it: children are a gift from the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a divine reward. (Psalms 127 verse 3 | Common English Bible)
It is important to develop Kingdom Families. The Bible instructs us to teach our children the Word of God at an early age. After our children were dedicated to the Lord we took them to church weekly, prayed for them nighty,
taught them to pray, and then prayed as a family. Children should understand that the church is an important part of their routine, just like going to school. It is not enough to send your children to school; church should be a part of every family’s life. We found that through our many trials, the family that prays together stays together. Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6 | KJV)
Parents are the first teachers that their children have and they have an awesome responsibility to teach them Kingdom Principles. Parents are commanded to train their children. These words that I am commanding you today must always be on your minds. Recite them to your children. Talk about them when you are sitting around your house and when you are out and about, when you are lying down and when you are getting up. (Deuteronomy 6:6-7 | Common English Bible)
Children need to be taught that they have a responsibility to obey their parents. The Bible gave us scriptures that we shared with our children so that they knew they were following God and not just their parents’ rules. Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction; don’t neglect your mother’s teaching; for they are a graceful wreath on your head, and beads for your neck. (Proverbs 1: 8-9 | Common English Bible)
Finally, regarding discipline, the Bible clearly teaches parents that children should be disciplined. Parents need to understand that discipline is not just corporal punishment. Many parents tend to parent the way they were parented; but there is a difference between punishment and abuse. When a child is corrected in love he/she will understand. Children who know God’s word understand that God is watching them even when their parents are not. Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart. (Proverbs 29:17).
There is no perfect parent or perfect child, but there is a perfect God. If parents seek God’s guidance, they will be on the path to correctly moulding children in today’s world. This is the ingredient for successful parenting. Michelle Meredith is a Mother of two adult children (19 and 21), Wife of a Pastor/Senator, Teacher, Child and Youth Counsellor, Education Director of Non-Profit Organization.